I don’t know if being a victim is harder or watching someone else you care for be abused and being just as powerless to stop it as you were your own abuse. Neither is a great situation by any means, but I’m leaning on the latter of the two. As a healer type I would rather bare it all than watch someone else let alone someone I care about be abuse, broken, degraded, and disregarded.
I think what hurts the most is that everything I have done to protect myself and mine and have taken the time to learn is disregarded. Being treated like I dont know what I am talking about. Told that I’m being irrational or taking things out of context… All of those things just make everything worse.